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I have already told our venue 70 people would be attending which is the max limit; and after coming home I realized I didn't include a few children in that number.... How do i go about letting these people know that their kids are not invited? Even though there will be plenty of other kids there. Can I slip a special card in their invitation?
Thanks for your time!!
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I am so lucky to have several adorable young cousins, and I want to have them all walk down the aisle. However, they will be 9 & 10 years old next summer when we get married. I think they are too old to be "flower girls" but I don't like the title of "junior bridesmaids"- I think it sounds like a sports team name. Do you have any creative ideas for what they might be called? What do you think of "Flower Maids"?
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I think that groomsmen matching the cumberbund, tie and vest to the bridesmaids dresses is in very poor taste. My sons fiance does not agree. What do you think? Much classier to do black
Also, my daughter-in-law-to-be would like the flower girls in big fluffy bride-like dresses with veils...This is so tacky, She does not believe me when I tell her this as her mother and sister say this is appropriate and classy. Will you settle this dispute?
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The flower girl will be at the rehearsal and the rehesrsal dinner with her parents. She has a younger brother and an infant. Should the younger brother and infant be invited to the rehearsal dinner as well? Thank you.
There is also a 4 year old ring bearer being invited(they are 3 hours away) along with his parents. Should his infant brother be included in the rehearsal dinner too? We are from out of state and are footing the bill.
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are children, age 5, of our out of town guests usually invited to the reception.
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I am getting married next April and want children that are family members at the wedding, but do not want any other kids attending (ex. my mom's co-workers kids, a childhood friend's kids, etc). Is this ok? Should I put this on their invites or tell them personally?
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My daughter who is 2 years old was asked to stand in a wedding as a flower girl. The bride recently called me and told me that my husband is standing in the wedding as a groomsman but was never formorly asked. I don't know if this is proper that they attend in the wedding and not myself too. The wedding is in three months
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Hello-
I was interested in renting a tuxedo for my nephew/ring bearer for a May wedding. I have checked Mens Warehouse and a variety of other stores but haven't had any luck.
Any suggestions?
Thank you!
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i just got engaged but have been planning my wedding for years.
i'm particularly close with my little cousin who i want for the flower girl, however my boyfriend has 5 nieces and 1 nephew and everyone wants them included as well (including me). what would be a tasteful, yet quick and meaningful way to incorporate all the kids that we love so much?
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Is it ok to have our grown children as maid of honor and best men for our 25 anniversey wedding
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My cousin is getting married in November and they had asked my 5 year old daughter to be a bridesmaid. We were delighted to accept. Fast forward a few months to last May and my cousin said that apart from the bridesmaids there would be no children at the wedding. Just to clarify my wife rang his intended and asked if our son (age 2) would be invited. She said that they wouldn't dream of inviting one without the other. Fast forward again to yesterday and my cousin called to see if we had found anyone to look after our son. I explained that there was nobody as we thought he would be invited too and all the family who could look after him would be there. He has a medical condition and we wouldn't leave him with a stranger. We received the invitation today and my son hasn't been invited. As I work with my cousin's intended she explained that no children would be coming and admitted that she had shot herself in the foot by saying he would be invited. We now feel that we have no option but to tell our daughter the truth and for none of us to attend the wedding. Any advice?
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How do you inform your reception guests that there are strict rules about areas where children are not allowed. The reception is at a tennis club and they have had problems with children breaking some very expensive equipment. Should we inform them with the reception information or just post signs "No Unattended Children beyond this point"?
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My Brother is getting married next year, and we already knew his fiancee didn't like children, but we've now been told second hand through my mother that they're not having any children at the wedding. Our son will be just under two by then, and we had hoped that as he was a family member he would have been invited.
My initial reaction was that I would refuse to go to their wedding, but having calmed down I have decided to go, but as it will be a 2 hour drive home we will be leaving early to get back to our son. The dilema I have is that I have been asked to be the Best Man, but now partially out of protest at them exluding their nephew, and partly because I will be leaving early I am thinking about turning down the offer.
Am I over reacting? I am disappointed that they only passed on that no children would be invited through my mother, and also that his fiancee is excluding immediate family from what is going to be a small Family & Friends wedding.
I understand that it is her wedding, but it's also my brother's wedding so it should be a joint decision. I think he is just trying to make her happy so is letting her make this decision. She is also 'joining' our extended family, so is going to have to get used to the fact that our son is a very important part of that.
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My husband is the best man in his best friends wedding. My daughters and I will attend the mid September wedding. My daughters are 10 and 12. They are 5'2 and 5'3 and a little thick, not fat. They look older than what they are. The wedding starts at 3 pm. What is appropriate for them to wear?
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My brother-in-law is getting married in October and we have a very serious situation. My 10 year old son is handicapped and the future bride doesn't want him at the service. She has asked if we have a babysitter we can call. My response was "yes, me". Now my husband is ill with me because I don't want to celebrate a union that is discriminatory and will eventually spoil our family unit. My b-i-l (of 15 years) is not saying anything to persuade her to change her mind and that bothers me, thinking he thinks the same thing. I don't think she is against children because she asked if our 11 year old daughter would be in the wedding party. Should I go and take my son or stay home to prove that I care more about him than her? Her only comment on this has been "I don't want him to be on display". My husband and I have prided ourselves on taking him everywhere with us. He rarely has a sitter and has been to 4 countries and from Maine to Florida!!! Why would we accept that lame excuse from her?
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We have friends who are assuming they will bring their kids to the wedding. We do NOT want these particular children to attend (major behavioral issues). Some other friends will attend with their family and the youngest child is 11 -- no problems with this family. The difficult family's children are 11 and under. Is it impossible to have the one family with their 11 yr old and older girls and not the other family's children? Is it appropriate to have something in the invitation that says "No children except relatives" (neither of these families are relatives) or something along those lines? Sorry if this is confusing!
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what is the correct name for the "train carrier" I'm trying to word my programs and I'm not sure what to label him as (he's a little boy, 4 years old). Please help my wedding is in 2 weeks!!
Thanks!
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My boyfriend's ex-wife's sister is getting married. Their children are in the wedding. He says he is going to "run by there real quick" to see the kids in the wedding. He did not invite me. We have been together almost two years and plan to be married, although no engagement at this point. Is this protocol? If yes, would it be the same situation if we were married? Or would I expect that his wife should attend?
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I would like all of my and my fiance's nieces and nephew in the wedding. What can i do to include the two youngest who are unable to walk?
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In April, my cousin got engaged and asked me to be in her wedding party. She also said she would like my son to be the ring bearer.
I just picked up my bridesmaids dress and asked my cousin when and where I should get my son fitted for his tux. She replied, "Oh, I thought I told you that my fiance's newphew is going to do it." Needless to say, I was dumbfounded.
My son is four years old and has been looking forward to being the ring bearer. How do I tell him that he's not going to be in the wedding with mommy? Should my cousin be the one to break the news?
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I am having a Wedding reception after my wedding in the Cuba, and I don't want to have children attend. My biggest problem is that my little sisters are 11, 10, and 8 years old. They are sad that they cannot be in the wedding, so I wanted to include them in someway (but how?) The thing is, what to I say to all the other family members who want to bring their children. My fiancé thinks that it may not seem fair to have my sisters attend, since he has a lot of little children in his family alone. I want my reception to be elegant, and know I that including children will add up the cost. Help!!! What should I do?
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All this concern over how to handle "no children" at the wedding.. given the fierce debate these days, isn't it actually RUDE of guests to ASSUME kids are invited or even ASK to bring them? They are then making the bride and groom uncomfortable by placing them in this situation which they have made clear on the addressed envelope. It is the couples day, what THEY want goes. Church, no church, red flowers, white flowers, purple flowers- whatever. THEIR decision. Asking them if you can bring kids is rude, If they want your kids they will send your ENTIRE family an invitation. Has anyone acutally taken this issue from this perspective?
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I am the bride and it I am helping plan the rehersal dinner because we are having a destination wedding and his parents have never been to our location. My attendants all have children, some in the wedding party & others not. How do you ask these people not to bring their children to the rehersal dinner when they have travelled to be there and both they and their spouce are attending. In some instances I would be inviting one neice and leaving her sister at home with a babysitter. Help
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I hope you can help. I am having a New Years Eve party- Elegant but fun, fun, fun. We have three bridesmaids and three groomsmen, and one junior bridesmaid (my 12 year old sister). Here's my question, I have 7 beautiful cousin's who I adore (ages 3-11), and am very close to. I want them to be in the wedding somehow, someway. I would love to see them all walk the aisle in their tuxes. Any suggestions on how I can incorporate them. It is really important!
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Hey Guys,
My fiance and I are getting married (my second, his third) and we have three children. We want all three in the wedding. My daughter who is 8 is the biggest tomboy on the face of the earth and would like to be the best man. His daughter 12 would be our maid of honor and my son. 16 would walk me down the aisle. My 8 year old "best girl" wants to wear a tux. I have no problem. Has this ever been done before? Is it tacky? Should I care?
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my husband and i have been married for a few years now, and plan to re-new our vows on our 5 year wedding anniversary. during that ceremony we plan to have the huge elaborate wedding that we have always planned/dreamed of, since our first was very small w/ only a few close family members and friends. would it seem odd to walk towards my husband or should we walk down the isle together? we do have two small children, and was wondering if they should be the one's to walk me towards my husband, or should they walk in front of my husband and i? or just at some point they walk down the isle and me later by myself. any suggestions would be GREAT!
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Hi- I need a answer my stepson is getting married in the Bahamas next summer. The problem is me & his father have 2 children together they are 5 & 7. They told us that the wedding is for adults only but that the kids could come but would have to leave right after the ceremony. I think that is aweful of them knowing that they are brothers. What should we do?? Should we go without them or start a war???? Which my stepson has a short fuse. PLEASE HELP ME
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What do you do when both sides of your family have a lot of young kids? Is there a creative way of including them without hurting feelings or making anyone feel left out, such as choosing one flower girl or one ring bearer?
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If you have a child in a wedding, I assume you invite the parents to the rehearsal dinner but do you include any siblings? (The wedding is suppose to be adults only except for those children in the wedding?)
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I am getting married next July. My fiancee's sister is my maid of honor. She has 1 daughter already who is going to turn three years old 2 days before our wedding and who is also our flower girl. She is currently trying to get pregnant with her 2nd baby. My fiancee and his whole family are expecting that no matter how old this baby is that he/she will be attending our wedding next summer. Their family includes children in everything where my does not. We have decided not to invite any children other than the ones in the bridal party but my fiancee feels that since this baby is his niece or nephew that it is different. My mom (who is paying for the ENTIRE wedding) feels that a baby that young does not belong at a wedding and does not want the baby there. I'm afraid if I say anything that it will cause a huge family war and a fight between my fiancee and I as well because his nieces and nephews are the world to him but I agree with my mom on this one. I think I've been pretty good with trying to meet everyone's needs for this wedding even if it means sacrificing what I want and I'm not sure how to go about bringing this up so that it doesn't cause a fight between both my fiancee and I and our families. HELP!
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Hi, I am getting Married in July of this year. I was thinking of having the flower girl who is 4 carry a flower ball. My question is if the ball is used do I forget about her throwing petals all together?
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hi,
i am getting married in march and i am having my baby in the wedding. she will only be 6 months and i assume she wont be walking. do you have any idea how i would get her to go down the isle with out her being carried? i thought about a white wicker stroller that could be pushed by my other flower girl but cant find one. any ideas?
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g a man with 2 children, and we are looking into getting married, in Florida. We live in Pennsylvania. We planned on just having parents and siblings, and their spouses. I do not feel that it is a good idea for the children to come because they are both under 10, and someone will have to watch over them. They love their father, and are very needy with him, and I feel this will interfere with our big day. (not to mention, the day before making sure all is together-out of state marriage license ect....) Who do they sleep with the days of our trip?? Help!!! Am I wrong to feel this way? This is my 1st wedding, his 2nd
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I need a unique way to incorporate my 7 year old son into my wedding. So it is not just the two of us joining, but the three of us. Any suggestions???
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Qd@is about inviting first cousins. I have two cousins who are 15 and 17 on the date of my wedding but within 3 weeks of me tying the knot both will have celebrated a birthday making them 16 and 18. I am inviting all my first cousins except these two because they are not adults and my wedding is adults only. I am getting married in my fiancee home state and therefore all my family will have to travel out of state. I know my aunt (who is my Godmother) and uncle would come if their kids were invited. Other than my sister's three kids age 4 and under there will be no other children attending my wedding.
I have been told by a few people because these kids are my first cousins it will look bad to only exclude them as they will be the only first cousins not invited. They are well behaved kids and act as adults. It's a dilemma because for our family parties we have put then in the adults section and not with the little kids. They stopped getting Christmas gifts at twelve years old. But now they are consider kids again for my wedding.
My fiancee has siblings with very young kids all under the age of 12. I feel if I invited my first cousins his brothers and sisters will get mad if we don't also invite his first cousins. My family however is very small and if my aunt and uncle don't come my parents and sister's family will be my only family attending.
Is there a magic answer?
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hi guys,
you are exactly who i am looking for.
my problem is...
my parents are paying for my reception, for about 225 people. my mom said my limit is 225. she wants an "adults only reception", which i agree with.
my boyfriend says his mom would be upset if we did not invite her sisters daughters kids (aged 18, 17 and 14).
I am not inviting my cousins kids, therefor, i don't think we should invite them. adults only.
what do you think?
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My sister is getting married in May 06 it's a Saturday evening wedding. She asked my 2 sons to participate in the wedding party my 10 yr. old as a jr. groomsman and my 4 yr. old escort to the flower girls in addition to my children she asked my 2 neices ages 2 and 4 to be flower girls & my nephew 15 to be a jr. groomsman and the groom asked his 6 yr old nephew to be ring bearer. I was asked to be Matron of Honor and my other sister a bridesmaid we are being asked to foot the bill for all expenses needed to perform our roles in their wedding party including the gowns/
hair/make-up and tuxedo rentals.
When we were asked we were excited to be such a special part of their day and to have our children perform such an important role without complaint over the $$ expense it would cost.
At that point we were never told that our children weren't welcome at the reception. We were told that they weren't paying for children's meals and they didn't want any outside children in attendance. We offer to foot the bill again for the kids to eat which would be at no cost to them. We never got a direct answer just a kinda indirect it's not about the $ we don't want anyone bringing their kids all this was in Feb.
Move forward to July we are now told they want the wedding party children to go home because it's an adult only affair
only the 10 & 15 are permitted to stay. We argue that it's not fair to have certain children leave and certain children to stay and are told it's MY WEDDING!!! We state we don't agree they aren't outside children they are in the wedding party and it's not fair to them to perform this special job for YOU and then when their whole family gets to celebrate and musics playing and they get announced into the reception they have to leave no celebrating for them just one dance after being announce 4 dances at the most and the little ones must leave. While their Mom & Dad, brother, Grandma & Grandpa, Aunts and Uncles all stay and they are dragged out and put in a car with a babysitter and sent home like a piece of unwanted garbage chucked out the window. Thanks for all your hard work making my wedding picture perfect but when it comes time to the celebration get out I don't want or need you anymore!! We tried to discuss it with BRIDEZILLA but no IT"S MY WEDDING!!!!!
Move forward to November you have to pay for your bridesmaid gown the one I picked won't be available any longer. So we go and pay excited it's coming together exictedly my sister states the kids are so excited too they are evening praticing how they'll dance together they are so cute!!! BRIDEZILLA why they aren't dancing I don't want them there they are only welcome at the vows after that home they go I don't care. Heated debate begins ends with we'll permit them to stay 3 hours first hour will be the vows & pictures 2 hour cocktail then remaining hour announcement into reception at which point they wait while bride and groom share first dance then father w/bride, groom w/mother couples announcement for dinner. Children dance when??? They don't they go home no celebrating nothing.
I'm told that they now change their mind my husband & I are untrustworthy and our children will not be permitted in the reception not one minute because one minute is too long and they don't believe we will send the one child home (note this is her 4 yr. old godson) our children aren't welcome.
Is this normal? Is it correct to request children be in a wedding party and kick them out of the reception? These are not family friends or schoolmates or the neighbors children. These are the brides nephews, neices and the grooms nephew they are immediate family. What is the right thing to do? Who's right whose wrong?
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I have two children from a previous marriage whom will be ages 6 and 8 at the time of our wedding. I have always stressed that they are the most important things in my life so he is well aware of this, so I have a couple of questions. I've been trying to think of ways to include them in the ceremony. I thought about having them walk me down the isle to signify we are joining as a family although a friend of mine suggested some may take that as my children are "giving me away". Do you think this is appropriate? Also I wanted to mention them in the vows and have them light the unity candle with us. He has no children so in, that respect, it's going to be a little one sided. Do you think maybe all of three events might be overdoing it a little. I don't want everyone (or at least his family) to think its all about my kids. Also, where would my children stand in the ceremony? Just as a note, its not exactly going to be a traditional church or formal wedding, I'm wearing a wine colored dress and kids are certainly welcome.
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I have two children from a previous marriage whom will be ages 6 and 8 at the time of our wedding. I have always stressed that they are the most important things in my life so he is well aware of this, so I have a couple of questions. I've been trying to think of ways to include them in the ceremony. I thought about having them walk me down the isle to signify we are joining as a family although a friend of mine suggested some may take that as my children are "giving me away". Do you think this is appropriate? Also I wanted to mention them in the vows and have them light the unity candle with us. He has no children so in, that respect, it's going to be a little one sided. Do you think maybe all of three events might be overdoing it a little. I don't want everyone (or at least his family) to think its all about my kids. Also, where would my children stand in the ceremony? Just as a note, its not exactly going to be a traditional church or formal wedding, I'm wearing a wine colored dress and kids are certainly welcome.
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My three year old son is the ring bearer in my cousin's wedding. We live in New Hampshire and the wedding is in Tennessee. I have just found out (three weeks prior to the wedding) that no children are invited to the reception, including my son. They told me that the in-laws house keeper can watch my son in our hotel room. However I don't feel comfortable (and neither will my son) having someone whom I have never met watch my son alone. I think it's incredibly rude for them to expect my family to pay to fly and stay there along with his tux and then not invite him to the reception. Am I being unreasonable?
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I'm getting married Oct. 2006. My fiance has two children, and we've decided not to have children at the wedding or the reception. Doesn't this apply to his kids as well?
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Hi Guy's
I have a complicated situation I have three children in my wedding and my fiancee has five brothers and sisters under the age of eleven. so a total of eight children will be attending my reception is it wrong not to invite any of our other relatives kids???
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My sister is getting married Oct.1 2005. She has a 9 month old baby girl and a 16 year old step-son to be. I am her maid of honor and my other 2 sisters are bridesmaids as well as my niece who will be a Jr. bridesmaid. My son (9) and my daughter (6) are ring bearer and flower girl. Her step-son to be is one of the 2 best men, and she has included her 9 month old as well to be another flower girl.
What would be your suggestion on how to get the baby down the isle?? Does someone carry her? If so, who would you suggest?
Thanks for your suggestions!
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I am a twice divorced mother of two. I am currently in a relationship with talk of a possible third marriage. I've kept my married name for my youngest daughter's sake and if remarried would like to hyphenate both last names. Is this considered tacky? I know women sometimes hyphenate but it isn't it traditionally the maiden name that is used with the newly married name?
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I do not want to invite children to our wedding, but my fiance is worried that some of our guests will be offended. He has several young nephews under the age of 12 and one of his groomsmen has two little girls (5yrs and 7yrs) that he feels obligated to invite. He has expressed to me that he doesn't really want the children there, but that he thinks it will make him feel uncomfortable around their parents if the kids aren't invited. This is an evening wedding and we plan to have a lot of dancing (many of our guests are professional dancers.) I really don't want kids disrupting our evening. Is it bad manners not to invite these children? Do people really get offended about such things?
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OK, here's the dilemma. It is now exactly 2 weeks from my wedding. As we expected we did not receive RSPV’s from all guests. One of these couples is my cousin and his wife. I asked my aunt if she knew if they intended to come or not. She did not, but assumed they would. A couple days later, we received their card and it says they will be attending, and bringing their 3 year old with them. Now we love him to death, but he technically wasn't invited, as it is a late evening wedding. My fiancé is frustrated b/c he had just gone thru the ordeal of telling friends not to bring their kids (and at least they had the courtesy to ask). I'm a little TICKED that they never even called first. And I'm feeling stupid for not calling them sooner b/c this whole thing could have been avoided. My question is, how do I go about handling this without causing any hard feelings? I'm half tempted to just let it go just to avoid a scene, but at the same time, it's MY wedding and I want my way!!! (Sorry)
Also, just to make things more complicated for you... I have reason to think that they might be sending "Pop Pop" home early with the baby so they can stay and party, so my "I wanted you guys to be able to have a good time" little plan won’t work. I know I'm a drama queen but this is really stressing us out and I’d like to be able to handle it in the way least likely to cause a family feud.
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I am to be a groomsman in an upcoming wedding for my cousin. He is like a brother and is my daughter's godfather. The future bride & groom have asked for her to be the flower girl in their ceremony. The wedding will be held three hours from home. She's 3 1/2 years old. Her mother, who I'm divorced from - but on civil terms, is DEMANDING that she be there to take care of her. I'm of the opinion that this is a family event, (of which she is no longer a part of). Seating is extremely limited, but there will be ample family supervision/care for my daughter before, during and after the ceremony. With this said, is there any legitimate reason for her to be there? This has resulted in several heated discussions and crying jags by her mother, who thinks I am just trying to get a "dig" in on her. She is driving me absolutely crazy over this. Please give me some kind of guidance!
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We are planning a very small ocean-side wedding in early October with just our immediate families. We have a 2 year old daughter who is not quite old enough to handle flower petals or the rings, but we want to have her as a part of the ceremony in some way. What can we do to involve her and give her a special place on this important day?
I also have 4 children from a previous marriage who will not be able to attend, but I would like to acknowledge them in some way, even just by carrying something special to represent them. What suggestions might you have?
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My fiance and I are getting married in Hawaii next 4th of July. We originally invited our immediate families, my godparents and one friend each. Now my aunt who was invited tells me that her daughter and husband and two kids, along with another sister of my dad's want to join us as well. My family is VERY big and I don't whether to just open the trip up to everyone once we've decided where we will be staying? It seems impossible to tell them that they are not welcome to go to Hawaii that week, and I'm feeling guilty that my family is so involved when my fiance's is not.
On another topic, I have cousins whose children are very poorly behaved and I wish only to invite those that I have known since they were born and are respectful of me. If I invite everyone kids we would have over 30 children under the age of 12 there, just from my side! Should I just accept the fact that people are going to be offended in one way or another and invite who I want, or do I have to invite all or none of the kids?
It's hard to be young and engaged, it seems like everyone wants to make suggestions without directly talking to me about it!
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my brother is getting married in less than a month. Up till now i had not been asked to help with anything. I have now been asked to babysit my nephew (their 4 month old baby) during the entire day. ceremony & reception. I was naturally absolutely delighted to ofcourse help out somewhere, and my nephew is ofcourse a gem, but my brother said he would understand if i dont want to. I thought about it, and realised that at first it sounds wonderful, but it could mean i miss a big deal of my brothers wedding, because I'll have to feed, change and ofcourse take him away to quiet him if he begins to cry. I dont know what I should do. I dont want to disappoint my brother, but I ofcourse dont want to miss the wedding. Please help!
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My sister-in-law is getting married this fall (a church ceremony). My 2-year-old son will be the ring bearer, and my husband will be escorting my mother-in-law down the aisle. My mother-in-law mentioned that, other than the ring bearer & flower girl, children will not be allowed at the wedding, yet I have just given birth to our second son (and we live out of state). My own parents have passed on and I have no siblings (very little family on my side), so the chances of having someone taking care of the baby is very slim. My mother-in-law mentioned that bringing the baby to the church ceremony will be okay. However, I am beginning to have concerns about a few things:
• Is it okay to bring a 2-month-old baby to church ceremony, with the family’s permission, but other guests are not allowed to do the same?
• Who will be with my son (behind the doors), if I am sitting with the guests, and while my husband is walking down the aisle with my mother-in-law?
• My son is rambunctious, so will he be expected to stand with the wedding party during the ceremony? And/or stay in the church for the entire ceremony?
• During the picture taking, do I take part in any of the pictures?
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ok kind of a long one. I am a widow to be remarried I have a 7 yr old girl and a 5 year old boy. They are our flower girl and ring bearer. My mom and dad both remarried on my dad's side I have a 20, 19, 15, and 10 year old sis. The 20 and 19 yr olds will be bridesmaids. I also have on my moms side a 10 and 5 year old brother and a 7 year old sister.. yes my siblings are the same age as my own children!!! What can I do besides have my brothers and sisters as jr brides and groomsman. Since, mom or dad do not want to pay for dresses or tuxes. I am at my wits end! And I don't want the kids to feel left out.
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my brother is 10 years younger than me. he is getting married and has asked my husband, myself, and both of my children (12 and 9) to be in the wedding...groomsman, and jr bridesmaid; however, the kids are not invited to the reception. is this normal? i am insulted that they would expect us to pay all this money for the kids to be in the wedding, yet not attend the reception. they are having someone BABYSIT all the guest's children.....but my kids are in the wedding and are immediate family....HELP
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I am getting married in a few weeks. Given the formality of the wedding, we have decided not to invite children, except for the flower girl and the ring bearer. With that said, my parents received an RSVP yesterday from a guest which indicated that she and her husband would be bringing her two-month-old baby. What is the best way to handle this without hurting anyone's feelings. I don't want a screaming baby on my wedding video, nor do I want to insult the other guests who left their children with babysitters. At the same time, I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her that her new baby is not welcomed. What should I do?
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My daughter is getting married in two weeks. She has been a teacher for three years and has invited all of her students to attend. We were wondering if you can suggest a reading {possibly from a childrens book} that one of her 1st graders could read at the ceremony.
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My nephew is getting married next month. His older brother and sister are both already married and me and my family(their 1st cousins were invited). Well yesterday we received the invitation. It only had me and my husbands name on it and only two guest passes. I was shocked that they did not invite my children (their lst cousins, which are his only 1st cousins on his dads side.) I was so upset that I emailed my mother his grandmother and asked if she thought this was weird. She said that there must have been a mistake and that she is sure they are invited but she will ask my brother(his dad). I don't know what I will do if they are not invited. It is an hour away and we all planned on staying somewhere for the night. Everyone will be there that is in there family but them if they truely are not invited. What should I do? I am hoping that it is an oversite, but don't see how it could be the invitation showed no indication that they were invited, yet my daughter and I were both invited to the shower. Whats up?
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My fiance and I are getting married in Oct and we have two special little people we would like to involve in the ceremony; one being my 10 yr old half sister and the other being my fiance's 8 year old nephew. We would like for them to be more involved then passing out programs and because of their importance in our lives, have their role be something that takes place during the ceremony. We are getting married in a Lutheran Church and any thoughts/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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I am getting married in Jamiaca in november and I'm planing for a beachy type wedding. my problem is that I cant find flower girl dresses I like. I dont want to spend alot and I dont want them to be white, but a bright color. my bridesmaids are wearing tea lenght cornflower blue dresses. I need advice on the color and where I may be able to find this. the girls are both 3.
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I have two questions for you:
First of all, I have three girl cousins. One is two years younger than I and is one of my best friends. Naturally, I asked her to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. My other two cousins are much younger and will be 11 and 13 on our wedding day. My mother insists that I should ask them to be junior bridesmaids because they are too old to be flower girls. I would prefer that they be involved as something other than junior bridesmaids. What roles are appropriate for 11 and 13 year old girls?
Second, my fiance's parents are divorced. His father has been remarried for 15 years. My fiance's stepmom is very crafty and wants to help me make things for the wedding. His biological mother isn't into all the bows and flowers and hasn't seemed interested in helping. At the same time, I don't want her to feel left out. How can I utilize his stepmom's skills without hurting his mother's feelings? How can I involve both of them?
Thank you so much for your help!
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We are having small ceremony with primarily family and few close friends. Also, only our nieces/nephews are invited. The reception is larger, but no kiddos except our immediate nieces/nephews. I have communicated this to a some out of town folk as we correspond primarily by email. Is this rude or should I be calling them on the phone. Invites won't be sent until late August,but trying to give them a heads up as many folk often travel with children in tow.
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We are hosting a garden wedding in 2 weeks with just over 100 guests - seating 8-9 at a table. 2 couples each have 2 small children (3/4 & 5/6) and 2 couples each have daughters (ages 12 & 14) would it be inappropriate to seat all of them together? I don't want to insult the girls but can't see another way to seat them without putting them at tables with older folks. Thanks
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should first cousins ages 7-13 yrs be invited to cousins wedding?
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I am getting married in Palm Beach this summer. This being a second marriage for both, we have decided to just go to the Rabbi and have him marry us. We are then having a formal reception afterwards. My question is... what would be the proper attire for us to wear and how can we include our children in some way in the reception.
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My daughter is the flowergirl in a friends wedding and after receiving the invitation yesterday, I find out that my son, who is her 10 yr. old older brother, was not included on the invitation. Is this a common occurance? I was shocked and very disappointed. How should I handle it?
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Hi! My wedding party consists of a maid of honor, a bridesmaid (the groom-to-be's sister), a best man, a groomsman and two ring bearers (the groom-to-be's nephews). The ring bearers are about 4 and 6 years old. I am worried that the 4 year old will cause a scene going down the aisle as he is hard to control. Would it be inappropriate to have the mother of the ring bearers (the bridesmaid who is the groom's sister) walk down the aisle with them? Thanks for your help!
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My daughter is to be married within the next 6 months. There are 4 nieces to be considered in planning the ceremony. Their ages are 12, 7, 5, 4. To make matters worse, my daughter's best friend, has a daughter 6 years old. It was mentioned previously that she would be the flower girl. What about the other nieces? The 12 year old could be a junior bridgesmaid, but how can we have 4 flower girls in order to keep from hurting feelings. How can we use all of the other little girls in a wedding ceremony and have them feel that they are an important part of the ceremony. HELP!!!!
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My fiance and i have agreed not to have any children at the reception besides the ones in the ceremony. He and i have many children in our families and the ones who are close to us will be in the party, but three out of the five children are not particularly well behaved, especially when together, and their parents aren't great discipliners. My question is, at the reception, during dinner, where are they supposed to sit and how can we politely tell their parents to keep an extra watch on their children that night??
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I am getting married at the end of April and my son is going to be the ringbearer. He will be a few days shy of turning 1, do you have any ideas about how he will get from point A to point B without walking?
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My sister-in-law is getting married and has asked two of my three children to participate in the wedding. The problem is that the on she didn't ask th oldest who is 5 is the one she has been closest with and they have talked about when the bride to be gets married that she would be the flower girl. She's having my 3 year old boy girl twins and my 5 year old nephew and not my daughter who has been looking forward to this before she was engaged because of previous discussions about it. The bride said that she had to let her future husband pick one of the flower girls - he picked a friends daughter. I'm so afraid that this is going to kill my daughter being the only sibling left out. Do flower girls and ring bearers have to be matched up boy girl boy girl? Should I not have my other two children participate to protect my 5 year old. This will truly devastate her? HELP? I explained to the bride that I was very concerned about my 5 year old since she was told a couple of times that she would be a flower girl for her . The bride said that she could only have two flower girls to match the two ring bearers. I'm so sad for my daughter just because she is going to feel so left out with her two younger siblings and hersame age boy cousin all part of it. What do I do?
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My daughter is engaged and she has a daughter that will be three when the wedding takes place. I would like some advice to pass on where my grandaughter would be involved at some point during the ceremony. Any suggestions. THanks
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my brother who lives in NY will be getting married next year in massachussetts. his fiance's parents are paying for the wedding. they are allowing 75 guests, with my brother only being given 25 of those spots. then they are making the announcement of no kids. well, we have family who is invited from tenn. and georgia with young kids. is there any etiquette about out of town guests with young kids. my sisters baby will be a year old at that time and she wont leave her daughter with anyone she doesnt know....i just think that since my brother is getting married, that him and his fiance should decide this. he told me tonite that her mother decided this. help!!
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We are having a small ceremony at a chapel that holds 65 people. I come from a large family and have 15 nieces and nephews. I want only older(10 and above) at the wedding. All will be invited to the reception. How do I graciously communicate this without offending family members?
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My fiance and I are from Wisconsin. She actually is still a resident of England, but are in the process of applying for U.S. citizenship. What we would like to do, is drive down on a Thursday, apply for the license, and then get married that day, or the next. Would our best bet be to do that in a courthouse? How would we go about that? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
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We were invited to a wedding. The inner invitation said "XXX Family" Does this mean my children were also invited? I wasn't sure so I RSVP'd for 2. If the children were included I want to take my young children (They don't need a food plate because they won't eat the grown up food) Can I take them to the wedding?
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Hi, My Wife and I have a question for you, about wedding guest list. My Nephew and his wife are invited to the wedding along with their two kids. They are only 8 and 9 years old. They were added to the list, on my brother’s behalf. As this will be an occasion for them to show off their grand kids to old family friends. A problem has occurred by inviting the grand kids, and not including my nephews wife’s adopted foster child.. My Nephews’ wife added their adopted foster child the age of 22 years, to their response card. With out discussing this with us. My Nephews’ wife choose not to attend the Bridal shower with her daughter, since the foster child was not included. Adding through a e-mail to my daughter (the bride), that my nephew, her and the kids would not be coming to the wedding because the adopted foster child was excluded. This has hurt my brother and his wife, wanting their grand kids to attend, and my daughter’s feelings telling us to include her. This is to be a joyous time for the whole family, we don’t know this child, that they adopted 5 years ago. My nephew’s wife has caused animosity in the family. Do you have any advice for us.
Thank you
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Help! We have friends who have a special needs child, and we are concerned about how to handle their invitation. We want them to come to the wedding, but we have decided that it isn't appropriate for their little boy to come, too (He frequently has "melt-downs" that include screaming at the top of his lungs for prolonged periods. Things that set him off include loud noises (think band), clapping, irregular sleep schedules (think travel), or not being able to have the attention of my fiance (whom he adores) all to himself (think entire wedding). These are good friends and we like this child a lot, but we are really concerned that his presence could have a catastrophic effect on the wedding - and we certainly don't have any idea how to say that tactfully to our friends!). No other children are invited to our wedding. We are concerned that even if we just put the parents' names on the invitation, they may bring him anyways (we have reason to believe that this isn't out of the realm of possibility). How do we diffuse this potential disaster? My fiance thinks we should offer to arrange for childcare for them (they are out of town guests) and pay for it. I feel like this is tricky given 1) this child is more than your average babysitter may be up for, and 2) we have no children and we have no idea on the who's and how's of babysitters! If we offer child care to one family, do we have to extend the offer to other out of town guests?
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Help! We have friends who have a special needs child, and we are concerned about how to handle their invitation. We want them to come to the wedding, but we have decided that it isn't appropriate for their little boy to come, too (He frequently has "melt-downs" that include screaming at the top of his lungs for prolonged periods. Things that set him off include loud noises (think band), clapping, irregular sleep schedules (think travel), or not being able to have the attention of my fiance (whom he adores) all to himself (think entire wedding). These are good friends and we like this child a lot, but we are really concerned that his presence could have a catastrophic effect on the wedding - and we certainly don't have any idea how to say that tactfully to our friends!). No other children are invited to our wedding. We are concerned that even if we just put the parents' names on the invitation, they may bring him anyways (we have reason to believe that this isn't out of the realm of possibility). How do we diffuse this potential disaster? My fiance thinks we should offer to arrange for childcare for them (they are out of town guests) and pay for it. I feel like this is tricky given 1) this child is more than your average babysitter may be up for, and 2) we have no children and we have no idea on the who's and how's of babysitters! If we offer child care to one family, do we have to extend the offer to other out of town guests?
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i have a friend who i have known for 12 years coming to my wedding, and she wants to bring her 9 month old baby. i didnt invite the baby cause i assumed that she would arrange for a babysitter on the day of my wedding. but apparently not. we are having the wedding taped and i dont want the baby to start crying and end up ruining the whole thing. what are your thoughts on this and what is a polite way to tell her not to bring the baby? thanks.
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I need help.This is my third marriage and his second. We have 3 children total. We are getting married this sat. No one knows. How do we tell the 14 and 10 year old about our marriage, and what can we do with them after the marrige to include them. It will be just the two of us on our wedding day. I dont even want to tell my parents because of the negative comments that might bring. I want this to be a happy day!
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My fiance and I are to be wed in June 2002. We each have two children (his two girls, my two boys). We want the children to feel as comfortable as possible during the ceremony and reception. We are going to include them in the ceremony but are not sure what to do during the reception. There will also be a lot of children at the reception, we know if the kids are happy the parents will be happy too! Any hints/ideas to making it a "kid friendly" event without spending a fortune? Thank you.
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My husband and I are renewing our wedding vows. We have two boys, 5 & 8. The youngest will be our ring bearer but I want my oldest to be a part of the wedding as well. He's not able to be a groomsmen since we will only have one, but I really want he to have a special role.
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